CHENNAI: Most of us, in some way or other are ego personified. It's quite strange that in spite of being under the influence of ego, majority refuse to accept it. Reason? because most of us do not know the difference between our true self and our ego. In fact, we don’t even realise there is a difference between the two. This is mainly because we identify ourselves as simply ME, and it is this mistake of our’s that creates much unnecessary suffering and emotional pain in our lives. Hence, its very criticial to acknowledge that our true selves and our egos are separate.
Ego can become a great obstacle to our personal development without we even being aware of it. This is because it is a little difficult for most people to identify ego as most of the literature on it identifies symptoms like arrogance, stubbornness, fear of judgement, fear of failure, amongst others, but it misses the key point. All of these elements have one core element in common: they only occur when you’re dependent on the external environment to feel the way you want to feel.
When you rely on the other peoples perceptions to feel good, then you’re going to fear judgement, you’re going to fear failure, you’re going to fight to prove a point that you know is wrong, and you’re going to try and blame others for your situation in life. This is what’s at the core of the ego — being dependent on the external environment to feel the way you want to feel.
History shows that great civilisations and powerful empires got completely disappeared when they fell in the hands of egocentric,conceited and arrogant rulers. It is because of such ego or arrogance of the past and even many modern rulers that the saying was coined that “Power corrupts, and absolute power corrupts absolutely”.