In continuation to the sustenance of healthy relationships, I would like to reflect on the emotional well-being this week.
Kinesiology a well-researched, scientific approach has proved how our thoughts affect our muscle movements. The arm raising exercise used in Kinesiology is a typical demonstration of how negative thoughts reduce our strength and resistance, while the positive thoughts build it up. This establishes the very fact that the negative thoughts have an immediate effect on our physical body.
So the focus on emotional well-being and nurturing positive thinking is as important as your daily physical exercise, if not more. One of the very simple techniques I learned from a dear friend Prashant Jain in his ‘Intention Workshop’ was saying mentally ‘cancel, cancel’. We as humans have a tendency to drift into negative thoughts under stress or in any emotionally bearing situation. So, whenever you drift towards negative thinking, just tell yourself ‘cancel, cancel’. Saying ‘cancel’ is an interruption pattern technique one can employ to makes him or her aware of his or her thoughts and thereby, not allowing them to manifest. And it works wonderfully well. So all you have to do is to say yourself mentally ‘cancel, cancel’ during your lows.
Saying affirmations is one of the powerful and simplest techniques I have found to heal and manifest what we want in our lives. In my Reiki workshops, I encourage participants to make affirmations of their wants and write them down on a piece of paper. Give them daily 10 minutes of Reiki and read them aloud. Soon enough you will realise how the universe starts conspiring to let those things happen in your life.
The belief of prayers is also a form of affirmation. So now you can understand what it means when people say my prayers got answered!
Affirmations are simple positive sentences stating what we want and you say them aloud. Most of the time people focus on saying what they don’t have, rather then what they really want. So instead of saying ‘I’m prospering’ and ‘My source of income is increasing every day’, we focus on ‘I don’t have enough of money’, ‘It’s a cut throat business’, ‘The margins are too low’, etc. The moment we start focusing and saying these things we are giving more energy and acceptance to these negative thoughts to exist in our life.
Affirmations help you to channelise your thoughts in achieving your goals when used regularly. They inspire you to take desired actions and decisions to achieve them.
I refer a lot to Louise Hay’s work on affirmations. They are simple and yet very powerful. I begin the process by looking for what I want. For instance, if I’m having trouble with finances--few affirmations for my situation will be ‘I’m having increased sources of income’, ‘I’m signing the cheques for my vendors joyfully’, ‘My employees are earning more and enjoying work’, ‘I sleep peacefully every night’. Repeating each of these sentences thrice every day along with visualising the situation soon bring to you the ease and comfort you were seeking.
Similarly you could make affirmations for health and relationships also. For self-esteem I find the affirmation ‘I’m a perfect wait’ very profound and impactful. One of the most powerful affirmations I have come across is looking myself in the mirror and saying ‘I love you. I really, really love you’. The truth is that any healing begins with loving and accepting ourselves. I encourage all the readers to do this two-three times for next 21 Days. I would love to know your experience about this exercise.
(Megha is a 33-year-old wellness expert and healer whose approach is holistic, intense and deep. She is a founder of Meghavi Spa and Salon located in Banjara Hills)