How can I improve memory power?
Brain Boost
Dear Readers,
We live in a time where we have become dependent on technology. Seldom do we realise the negative impact technology has on us. Especially on HUMAN MEMORY.
Numerous studies show that we are losing our ability to remember as dependance on technology is taking a major hit on our reasoning abilities, decision making skills and basic THINKING ABILITIES.
Memory in simple terms is the ability to observe, focus, record, store and finally, recall that information when need be. CREATING A MEMORY is directly proportional to how easily we are able to recall it. In other words, the process we follow determines how strong the impact of that memory is, which in turn makes us NOT TO FORGET something.
This is where our SENSES play a ROLE. We primarily remember either by SEEING, LISTENING or FEELING. Then we perceive the importance of that memory and decide to store it in the SHORT TERM or LONG TERM part of our brain. If we perceive the information to be less valuable, we forget after a while, but if we perceive it to be important, we cling on to it.
The simplest way we create long term memories is when we use ALL THREE MAIN SENSES. This is the reason why we never forget riding, driving or swimming as we use all our senses to learn it. It becomes instinctive or AUTOMATIC because of the EXTREME IMPORTANCE we perceive these activities to have on the basis of our survival instincts.
Why do we forget things?
SHEER IGNORANCE. Our memory is formed is by our SIGHT. When we are too casual or do not concentrate, the memory becomes distorted right from the start. This is why we forget what we study when we glance through.
The next important aspect is our OVERCONFIDENCE because of which we tend to MULTI TASK.
Last but the most crucial aspect is PERCEPTION. We fail to assign the IMPORTANCE required to a memory and then fail to store it LONG TERM. This is where we understand the importance that maturity, experience, reasoning and decision making also affect our MEMORY.
#CoachFormula For Improving Memory
First, be aware of your limitations. You should NEVER TRY TO OVERLOAD information. For example, if you’re able to remember only FOUR NUMBERS and there are TWELVE remember them in set of threes. This helps you to remember with ease as you’re programming your brain to become SEQUENTIAL and follow a order.
Next, come up with a strategy wherein you can combine the use of all three senses to store a memory. For example, loudly reading a chapter while reading it at a comfortable yet focused speed and then writing it down to reinforce that memory.
The final step is REPETITION. Practice and practice.! Also, NEVER MULTI TASK!
My Final Word,
Arthur M Schlesinger, an historian, said “Science and technology revolutionize our lives, but memory, tradition and myth frame our response”. I say, “Technology was meant to make us more efficient and give us HOPE, let us not DEPEND on it to such an extent that we become inefficient and HOPELESS!
With Regards,
Adarsh Benakappa Basavaraj
The Coach
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I will be married in a few days. I have an apprehension about whether my wife will take care of my parents properly. How do I make her love my parents? To Be Bound
Marriage isn’t ONLY about what YOU WANT. it’s a journey of mutual understanding, compromises, support and love. When I say LOVE, it means unconditional and a GENUINE BOND. Working together is the key factor. You cannot have conditions and LOVE your wife. YES, I do agree that she has to take care of your parents, that’s the responsibility of a GOOD WIFE. But in order to achieve this you also have to be a GOOD HUSBAND. In the same way, for her to love your parents your PARENTS have to LOVE her and make her feel LOVED first. I want you to understand that she’s practically leaving behind her entire life, comforts, freedom and parents, entering a new place which is your house. You cannot expect her to cope with these changes overnight. The more comfortable you and your parents make her feel, the faster she’ll take care of you all the way you want. Imagine if you had to do the same. Changing jobs and adjusting to a new workplace itself is so challenging, imagine the change she has to get accustomed to?
Rather than trying to force anything on to her, first focus making her feel comfortable with the new surroundings, introduce her to your neighbors and people around you. Keep a watch on her and be sensitive towards her. It’s common for her to miss her parents and her home often until she gets used to the new environment. Be supportive and make her feel secure during these phases. Also, request your parents, especially your mother not to immediately burden her with responsibilities of the house. Tell them to allow her to blend and settle down. Once this happens, trust me she’ll not only automatically take up all the responsibilities of your house, but also love you and your family without bounds. Developing a system of understanding between you all is the KEY, my friend. Wish you a very happy and prosperous married life. You’re starting a new chapter in you life. God bless you.
Recently, I joined a company where I made new friends. I got close to a girl and liked her company. But I am already in a relationship with someone else. After one month into my job, I realised I was not doing justice to my relationship. I tried to be honest with my girlfriend and told her about the friend, but she took it in a different way. She lost trust in me and we started fighting frequently over this situation. What should I do to gain her trust again?
Mending Bridges
Honesty is definitely the best policy. I appreciate you being upfront to your girlfriend but imagine the reverse of this, what you’d you do? MEN often find it hard to handle situations like these. You would have taken time to understand if she had done something like this. Understand because she LOVES you, she’s fighting with you frequently. She’s feeling insecure!
You have to be patient. At the same time, you need to keep reassuring her that you love her. Make her feel secure. Spend more time with her, surprise her and lighten her mood. Tell her you’re sorry. There might be no fault of yours, but somewhere during the conversation, there is a possibility of some kind of comparison that must have come up because of which her confidence in you has taken a hit. Patience and perseverance should do the trick.
There might be a million OTHER GIRLS out there, but THE ONE that stood by you during your challenges in life is the one you need to stick to!
I am a 47-year-old doing facility services business. Few months back I had a major setback. My most trusted staff betrayed me. I had to replace them and restart. There were times I felt like quiting. I am an MBA with 20 years of sales experience. How do I cope with this? Bumpy ride
I congratulate you for making it this far but focus on what you learnt. No point brooding about the past. You’ve learnt a lot of things and will ensure that you’ll never repeat these mistakes. You’ll also ensure to secure yourself and make the necessary changes to your business, in such a manner that whether your staff betrays you or not in the future your business will not face a negative impact. An alternative business would be great, but why stop a business in which you’re already an expert? Maybe in the future you’ll even start another business parallely so that if one isn’t doing well, the other will keep you going. Regarding an alternative career, that can only be your last option when you find it hard even to survive. I say this as you’ll have a very challenging task to even fit in and adapt to the lifestyle of working for someone else, especially at this level of maturity in your life. So that’s off the drawing board as of now. Take this up as a challenge and prove to your staff that you were able to make it back on your own and you're an ONE MAN ARMY. Failing is a part of life, how we let it affect us is what matters. Falling down is natural, but how fast we recover, get up and is what matters.
I am attracted to my wife’s sister. Please advise me. How do I forget her? Forbidden Fruit
Lets look at the consequences. Scenario 1: Even your sister-in-law (SIL) likes you, but only as a brother-in-law and you tell her that you have feelings for her. She’ll be devastated, avoid you and also maybe tell your wife.
Scenario 2: Lets just imagine that your SIL also likes you and eventually your wife, her family and your family also comes to know of this. You’ll face a divorce or if you somehow manage to avoid it.
In both the cases, you’ll break trust. Remember, you’ve taken a decision to be committed to one woman.
Understand why you’re even developing feelings for her. It’s like any other relationship where you feel dissatisfied with one person and find another with those traits. But maybe she might have her own set of traits you don’t know of, which might be worse than your wife’s. Rather than risking everything, analyse what is making you feel empty with your wife. DO NOT even think about telling her how you feel about her sister. Put it across in a mature way, say that you’re feeling unhappy and you don’t want it to be this way. Also don’t expect everything to go your way, marriage is all about compromises. For all you know, there might be issues with your behaviour which has made your wife change her behaviour. Maybe that's why this EMPTINESS has come.
Lastly, remember that she’s your SISTER and only look at her in that aspect. Trust me, if you work this through and START LOVING YOUR WIFE... You’ll sit and laugh about how silly you were in the future. You’ll also have a stronger relationship with your WIFE and will never stray from her EVER!
Better commit this to your memory