Interview with Anupam Kher: 'Lessons Life Taught Me Unknowingly'

Versatility is Anupam Kher’s middle name, and no, we aren’t just talking about his roles in films.

Published: 10th September 2019 10:07 AM  |   Last Updated: 10th September 2019 10:07 AM   |  A+A-

Bollywood actor Anupam Kher

Bollywood actor Anupam Kher (Photo | PTI)

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Versatility is Anupam Kher’s middle name, and no, we aren’t just talking about his roles in films. The doting dad to Shah Rukh Khan in Dilwale Dulhaniya Le Jaayenge or the therapist in Robert Di Niro’s Silver Linings Playbook – Kher is an actor, who also runs a premium film school in India, was the chairman of the Central Board of Film Certification, and the National School of Drama, in addition to being a “proud Kashmiri”.

Now, he dons the role of an author, with the launch of his memoir, Lessons Life Taught Me Unknowingly. The book, he says, “has no target audience,” and is an overview of his life in 433 pages.

Excerpts from a chat with the 64-year-old, from the bustling city of New York.

Actor turns author 
Talking about his decision to write a book, he says,“We made a two-and-half-hour play out of my life called Kuch Bi Ho Saktha Hai. For the last 14 years, I’ve been performing it all over the world. But about three years ago, I realised that a play about my life does injustice to a lot of other things I want to share.

When I was looking for work, autobiographies of certain people like Charlie Chaplin kept me alive, both as an actor and as a person looking for work. So I thought, if my life can help people, then I should write it.” 

While the book is an inside look into the actor’s way of life, he adds, “I want the interpretation of the book to be inspirational for the millions of people who live in smaller towns and cities, who are from lower economic backgrounds. I think it’s important for people who don’t have a rich background to look at my life.

I say this because I too am from a small town, lower-middle-income family, whose father was a clerk in the forest department. And through sheer hard work and optimism, I reached a certain stage, and I want that to be an inspirational tool for people.”

He emphasises that this book is for all generations because it shows “Bollywood in the ’80s, India before the evolution of mobile and technology, the importance of joint families, and how failures shouldn’t stop you from achieving your dreams and goals in life.”Kher explains how he enjoys the literary works of famed Russian authors, Leo Tolstoy and Chekov.

He says, “I’m a trained actor, and I’ve read a lot of books. I love Russian literature. But because I am a drama student, I also enjoy the works of everyone from Arthur Miller to Tennessee Williams.”

Lights, camera, action
The actor, whose early films in Hollywood include Bend It Like Beckham, is currently shooting Season Two of the famed TV series, New Amsterdam in the US. The veteran has worked in multiple industries under his tenure as an actor, so we asked him about how Hollywood and Bollywood have it different. “Things have changed now,” he says, referring to the Indian film industry. “People in India are much more professional and tech-savvy.

The new generation actors are also much more disciplined, and the system is quite different from back in the day. Now you have to be professional. I used to do 21 things at once, but now, I have to focus on one thing at a time.” 

In addition to his roles in Hollywood, Kher’s work frequently involves him collaborating with his role models – the likes of Woody Allen and Robert De Niro. He says, “Sometimes you want to do things with certain people because you just want to see them at work. I’m a great fan of Woody Allen. I learnt a lot from his movies; he’s an amazing writer and director. I managed to do shake hands with Michael Jackson. I was very happy to meet and do a film with Robert De Niro too.”

In a New York minute 
We gather that a cab driver in New York recently recognised Kher, who really enjoys the attention. “I’m very thrilled about being recognised in foreign cities by the local crowd.

And that makes me feel very humbled. Millions of people from Mumbai strive to become actors, and .001 per cent actually make it. I’m one of them.”

Before fame engulfed the veteran actor and propped him up to his now-celebrity status, he acknowledges his choices over time and says, “I don’t believe in regret. For me, life was a journey, not a destination. In that journey, good things happen, and bad things happen.

But both teach you a lot about life. You feel bad for some time, but you need to move on. God has been very kind to me, and I thank him for giving me such opportunities.”

Looking ahead 
The actor also runs a school, Actor Prepares. “When you have professional doctors, engineers, why not professional actors?” he asks. “We’ve started a course for people above 50, and we also have more courses for children, apart from other commonly found choices.”Talking about his future projects, Kher says that there’s plenty to look forward to, especially in the next four months.

“I won’t be able to reveal them now because it’s still being finalised, but I can tell you that it’s not necessarily a movie. I want to bring India to America – bring the culture of India to America. So, I’m working on a few things to aid that.

I feel I should bring the culture of the country that has given me so much to the States – whether it is the yoga, our culture, more food from what’s already there...” Lessons Life Taught Me Unknowingly published by Hay House India, distributed by Penguin Random House India. Rs 699.

Trouble in the Valley
I’m a Kashmiri. I think the Western media is unfair to the four lakh Kashmiris who were thrown out of their homes, and it was important for me to share with them the other side of the story.

I think it was important  (a rebuttal to comedian Hasan Minhaj’s view on the Kashmir issue) because he was talking about the truth and the misery, which I completely understand and feel for. But I also think Article 370 going away is very good. It’s also important for him to know the history.

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