'We All Need Someone to Talk to and I Have My Therapist' - The New Indian Express

'We All Need Someone to Talk to and I Have My Therapist'

Published: 06th April 2014 06:00 AM

Last Updated: 06th April 2014 12:30 PM

When director David Dhawan approached Nargis Fakhri to play Aisha in Main Tera Hero, the 34-year-old jumped at the opportunity. “I had been wanting to do a comedy. When I heard the story, my first thought was ‘this story is so freaking funny’. When they offered me the role of Aisha, I said ‘Hell yeah!’ I don’t relate to Aisha at all. I don’t know that lifestyle. She is a spoilt girl who gets everything she wants… I don’t know that life. But I wasn’t going to let go of a chance to experience it. I also got a chance to be glammed up for the first time. So, I’ve got hairstyles, full-on make-up and hoochie mama clothes,” she says with a laugh.

Main Tera Hero is Nargis’ first time working with another actress. And, while she had heard horror stories of insecurities, she is glad to have worked with Ileana D’Cruz. “I know everyone is looking for a story but I only have a happy story,” she says with a laugh, adding, “I have no issues working with other people. I think, I was blessed that it was her. Yes, there is hope in the world that two girls can work together in a film and can actually like each other. We didn’t have insecurity issues because we are grown-ups and are mature.”

Not one to mince her words, Nargis in an earlier interview had said that when you work on a film, everyone pretends to be your best friend and when the film ends, those friendships end. Does she see her new-found friendship with Ileana going beyond the sets of Main Tera Hero? “Well, she is an acquaintance. Everyone on this set was an acquaintance except Arunoday Singh who I have known for a long time. Even then, I don’t see him often. So, even if you are friends with someone, our lives are such that you don’t see him often enough. Even though I got along with Ileana, it doesn’t mean that this will blossom into a real friendship. But, at least, I know that she is nice and I don’t get any negative vibes from her. As for friendships, I really think it’s not possible to make friends primarily because of time constraints.”

Everyone needs a support system. Nargis, who lives in Mumbai on her own and doesn’t have too many friends, relies on a therapist. “You are right, I had no family, friends or support system of any time. I enjoy the work I do but I am constantly working. This is a high-pressure job and its natural to get depressed, stressed and have feelings that you can’t channel. Dude, anyone in my position can get depressed. Everyone needs someone to talk to and I have my therapist. I tell her everything… every single thing that happens in my life. So, she is my 3 am friend because of the time difference.”

Nargis insists that living under the arc lights of Bollywood has changed her as a person. “I am an emotional and sensitive person. I am learning to disconnect. I tend to get over-involved in the lives of others and taking on their problems. I have also always been brutally honest. But in the last few years, I have realised that it doesn’t pay to be honest all the time. There are too many egos there. You don’t really know who to trust. There have been times when I have told someone something and the next thing I know everyone is talking about it. It could be something insignificant and stupid, but you feel like your privacy is violated. So, over a period of time, you become a bit of a recluse. But it has also made me a tougher person. I had already had a tough life before I moved to Mumbai and I didn’t think it would be so tough here.”

Talking about her career, Nargis, who has done three films in as many years, says she can’t imagine a life of ‘all work and no play’. “I want to have a regular life. I want to be able to say ‘yo, I am going to Thailand to see my friends’. Or take off to New York to see my mom. I heard an actress didn’t have a single day off last year. I can’t do that. I would die. When you work as an actress, nothing around you is real. I don’t want to lose touch with reality. I don’t want to lose my mind thinking I am someone I am not. I am Nargis Fakhri, a girl from Queens with a college degree. I act because I got lucky and it is kinda fun.”

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