Real love isn’t physical, emotional attachments

Children, life and love are not two.

Published: 23rd September 2017 10:00 PM  |   Last Updated: 23rd September 2017 06:21 PM   |  A+A-

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Children, life and love are not two. They are one and the same. Love is the substratum of all that we do, feel, hear and see, including the entire creation. Love is the purest form of energy. It alone has the power to transform. We are born to experience and remain established in that undivided, pure and divine love. Our entire life is a search for that. Unfortunately, most people die without being able to have a glimpse of it.

Love is like a ladder. Bound by unhealthy attachments, likes and dislikes, and all sorts of negativities, most people dwell at the lowest rung of love. Though we may call our physical and emotional attachments “love”, they are not real love. However, we need not reject them. Simply realise it is the bottommost rung. Use it as a steppingstone and climb to the next level. Keep climbing like this and don’t stop until you reach the highest point of love, which is realising your oneness with the divine.

There are two types of love—binding and liberating. While the former is the language of the intellect, the latter is the language of the heart. Those who speak the language of the heart are not propelled by their ego. They have no interest in proving that they are right or anyone else is wrong. They are deeply concerned about their fellow beings and wish to help, support, and uplift others. In their presence, transformation simply happens. They are the givers of tangible hope and of light in this world. Those who approach them are reborn. When such people speak, it is not to lecture, to impress or to argue—it is a true communion of hearts.

Real love has nothing to do with lust or self-centeredness. Here, you are not important; the other is important. Your partner is not an instrument to fulfil your selfish desires; you are an instrument of the divine with the intention of doing good in the world. Real love does not sacrifice others; it only gives joy.
Love is selfless. In real love, you expand and become one with everything—all-encompassing, ever blissful. Unfortunately, in today’s world, it is the language of the intellect that prevails, not the language of the heart. Selfishness—not love—dominates the world. Narrow-minded people influence those with weaker minds and use them to fulfil their selfish goals. The concept of love has been distorted. This is why the world is filled with conflicts, violence, and war.

Today, what the world needs is to awaken its latent feminine qualities—such as love, compassion, patience and selflessness. Through these we can awaken to a state of “Universal Motherhood”. Anyone—woman or man—who has the courage to overcome the limitations of the mind can attain the state of Universal Motherhood. The love of awakened motherhood is a love and compassion felt not only towards one’s own children, but towards all people, animals and plants—even to inanimate objects.

Children, may you put in effort to be loving and compassionate to one and all. Compassion is both the beginning as well as the culmination of spiritual life. For each small step you take towards God, He will take 100 towards you. Be patient, kind and honest and the world’s beauty will gradually open up to you.
The writer is a world-renowned spiritual leader

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