It’s all about the effort

Everyone wants to be in a safe, stable and a romantic relationship with their partners.

Published: 21st February 2014 07:55 AM  |   Last Updated: 21st February 2014 07:55 AM   |  A+A-


Everyone wants to be in a safe, stable and a romantic relationship with their partners. However, quite often  relationships fail to work out due to ego clashes and other reasons, especially among young couples.  To avoid such hassles and to maintain a safe and stable relationship, invest in relationship work ethic the way you do at work.

Couples who develop a good relationship ethic with their partners like they do with their colleagues at a workplace, usually enjoy a stable relationship. “When people enter the workplace, they make an effort to arrive on time, be productive throughout the day, listen attentively, try to get along with others and dress themselves to make a good impression,” says Jill R Bowers, a researcher at University of Illinois. 

Similarly couples should give priority to their partner and make an effort towards active listening, spending time and planning things together. One must ensure that personal stress does not spill over into the relationship.

“Whenever I have a bad day at work, it affects my mood and I often take it out on my partner. He does that sometimes too, so it affects our relationship. However, of late we have been making a conscious effort to avoid bringing stress from work into our personal lives and things have been much smoother,” shares Priyanka Kumbhat, an event manager, adding “It is important to invest time into a relationship if you really care about that person, otherwise things can easily fall apart.” Researchers measured the impact of work-partner balance skills and strategies as well as relationship satisfaction in 47 couples. They noted that sharing household tasks continues to be a big concern for couples. Flexible work schedules are often advocated as a way to balance work and family commitments, but these arrangements can blur the lines between work and family time. Establishing those boundaries is difficult enough, and not having those limits can make life even more stressful.

“Apart from problems at work, there are plenty of other personal commitments that we have to deal with as a family – like going to the bank, paying bills, buying groceries and so on. I often have fights with my husband because he always tries to escape family commitments,” said K Mitalee, an architect.

Some couples however,

successfully manage to juggle their personal and professional commitments. “We normally take turns in doing household activities. It all depends on how busy the other person is at work. Sometimes if he has a big meeting or a

conference, I take the responsibilty at home and he does the same for me,” explains Madhavi Rao, who works in an IT company in the city.

The key is to take relationships seriously and make a conscious effort to make it work. “Take the relationship work ethic seriously and make time for your partner intentionally,” adds Bowers.

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