Living Sans Attachments

Have you ever questioned that being spiritual means to give up your desires and needs?

Many people relate that being spiritual is to live without having needs and desires and being complacent.

This means being spiritual is a complete “no-no” for any person who has any professional or personal goals. For me too, it has been a struggle and lot of internal questioning to accept myself as spiritually evolving and still doing things to have my needs fulfilled.

Interestingly we have accepted religious people having professional, monetary and personal goals. However, the concept of being spiritual and having the need of a partner, need for a better place or car or any other materialistic or emotional needs coexisting is often labeled as a  non-spiritual concept by many.

My understanding of spirituality is that it empowers a person. It is the awareness that I’m the creator, executor and destructor of my life and I attract each and every situation and people in my Life. This is the most empowering belief that lets us take complete responsibility of our life.

To get to that stage is indeed quite a task as it is to undo the genetic imprints of centuries, letting go of our ego, our attachment of being a victim and blaming others, our situations and take a total responsibility of what is happening in our life.

This also means accepting ourselves as “who we are with all our heartfelt needs and all the desires”. The difference being, a spiritually evolved person will accept all his/her needs being born in a human realm without being attached to them. The moment we drop our attachment, we accept ourselves truly, unconditionally.

 Dropping our attachment also brings us to a place where in we are fine with or without a need. So you are ok to have a need for a spouse, a car, a home, prosperity and you are ok even when you don’t have it. Unless we accept our needs and also drop our attachment with them, our need to have it creates a craving for it. And when do we crave for anything? It is when we believe we don’t have it!

The current group I am working with, I have created four goals -- Spirituality, travel, fun and party and business growth for a set of likeminded people.

I was being questioned by few how spirituality could exist when you have materialistic goals of fun, party and business? It is because several people are confused with the difference between accepting our needs and being unattached to our needs. So you could party, prosper in your business and take all the necessary steps to have those goals fulfilled and still be unattached to them.

And the beauty is in the moment we drop our attachment and clinginess to our heartfelt needs, the universe conspires for it to happen in the better good for us. Time to enjoy, celebrate the vibrancy and beauty of life and lovingly accept all your heartfelt needs and desires with no strings attached! 

Megha Dinesh

(Megha is a 33-year-old wellness expert and healer whose approach is holistic, intense and deep. She is a founder of Meghavi Spa and Salon located in Banjara Hills)