Kangna Ranaut speaks from the heart about the trouble she has had in her previous relationships at the launch of Chetan Bhagat’s new book One Indian Girl.
Do you identify with the woman protagonist of One Indian Girl?
It’s a very special book with a human take on a working woman’s life. Today’s girls are struggling with their professional and personal lives. When I read the book, I was in tears — a few things made me very emotional because it seemed like a leaf out of my experiences.
Have men been insecure about your success?
This is a very sensitive topic. When I was not doing well, I was dating a man who was more successful than I was. I felt I was devalued. I was not acknowledged. That motivated me to do well. Just how it works for men — you meet a woman and you want to be worthy of her, be a better companion, for a better future. And you want to do well for yourself; not just for the partner. Why do you want to move ahead in life? We have the same reason as men do. You want to be worthy of your partner.
When he acquires social stature and goes up to the same woman, it works for him. But in a woman’s case, it is the other way round. In relationships, my success has always gone against me. Here’s an analogy — when I was not successful, men behaved like a hard-to-please father figure but when I became successful they became more like an evil, jealous sibling. I felt like they will set my closet on fire. They were jealous of my fashion sense too. Everything was about competing with me. It became unbearable. You feel a loss of desire. You feel the man is more focussed on competing with you, proving you wrong, crushing you, your ego and completely demolishing you. There’s not a little bit of trust left.