BENGALURU: Is finding love in the time of dating apps tougher than usual? Well, it appears so.
Too many fish in the sea are spoiling the dating game, is what a few Bengalureans believe.
“I was seeing this Spanish girl and then I met a German one and then I had to decide whom to pursue,” says David (name changed). For David it soon came down to the odds of which country fares better, while deciding on which woman he wants to continue a relationship with.
Another problem is the barrage of fake profiles on online dating apps. “If the guy is super good looking in his photos on the app, then it is definitely a fake profile,” says Anjana (name changed). Same thing is true for several fake female profiles that sport celebrity photos too.
“Most of humanity is projecting something that they are not when it comes to their online images. Most of these projections are what you see on Facebook,” says Nishant (name changed).
He is 45 years old and has been married twice. “It is a bit blurry now after two marriages,” he laughs, but adds that the problem is that “we have been conditioned to marry. If you get rid of this conditioning, most people would need different things”.
“We are in an age where singles have an unlimited number of profiles on their mobile phones, and yet, they find it increasingly difficult to meet in real life”. Siddharth Mangharam, co-founder of Floh.
At this app, the team focuses on helping like-minded people meet in real life at activities that they enjoy doing. These could be cookouts, picnics, single malt evenings, sailing or quizzing.
Simran Mangharam, co-founder of Floh poses a valid question : “Is technology removing the social connect?””It gives you an option, but it also lets you think that there are more options out there,” she adds.The stress to be witty is immense, says Simra. The attention span among people on dating app too is quite less, notes Rahul (name changed).
“There are just so many profiles. If you don’t build a rapport instantly, you lose as the person you like has other options,” he notes.
Simran says that there are several who meet online and develop a romantic relationship despite having not met. “They are committed to each other but have never met in person. You are set up for disaster if you are one such person.
You are having a relationship with your phone darling,” she says. Siddharth and Simran hosted a talk on “Relationships in the age of Tinder and Virtual Porn”, as part of Mind Manifesto Society meetings at Sly Granny recently.