Why live when we will die anyway?
If the consequence of life is death then why should we keep running and fighting throughout our whole life. After all, it’s all going to end with me turning into a handful of ash! I’m confused. Please help, Adarsh WhatIsThePoint
Dear Readers,
Due to space constraints, I find it apt to focus on what I preach and practice. This query shook me and at first glance seemed absurd. But, it is such a deep thought that I started questioning my existence! In spite of knowing that we all will die, why do we endure hardships? Is it because it is inevitable or pre-destined? Is to find God? Or to find MEANING of our existence?
I get ecstatic when I receive queries like these as it challenges the boundaries of everything I know. The learnings and experiences of my own life is coming to use and that SENSE OF SATISFACTION is something that can only be experienced but difficult to express. Hence, why we endure the hardships of life is to learn the value of CONTENTMENT which is nothing but the highest level of SATISFACTION.
Let’s suppose, that we took a vacation with a time-bound VISA. In spite of clearly knowing that it’s a temporary change and we will have to ultimately come back to the place of our origin. Why do we even go in the first place? What’s the objective? Is it curiosity? To explore? To learn? What is it that actually motivates us? The answer to these and the many more aspects that can be derived is simply put EXPERIENCES! How is EXPERIENCE linked to our CONTENTMENT?
This is where our ability to LIVE IN THE PRESENT and enjoy every moment comes into picture about which I’ve written in my last week’s conversation in detail. The deeper our level of involvement is, the more stronger is the experience. We crave NEW EXPERIENCES everyday, which is nothing but DESIRE. What we DESIRE is what we choose to EXPERIENCE and finally these experiences, GOOD or BAD, is what leads to LEARNING which ultimately leads to REALISATION. When we reach this stage is when we are able to understand the DEEPER MEANING OF LIFE. When this complete process is fulfilling enough is when we feel CONTENT. Being content also means that you’re mind is in BLISS and it is in this state, many believe we find GOD.
How do we come into existence and how do I discover my purpose?
I can explain this in the simplest format covering all grounds reasonably whilst at the same time being spiritual too.
Let’s consider ourselves as ENERGY. The fundamental law of thermodynamics states that ENERGY CAN NEITHER BE CREATED OR DESTROYED, BUT CAN ONLY BE TRANSFORMED FROM ONE FORM TO ANOTHER. If we manage to integrate this principle into the concept of life...we can conclude that we are souls (energy) which transforms into a baby inside a mother’s womb, are born and live till we grow old, die and become a soul again which is nothing but energy.
I believe, that we all are born as human beings to experience PRE-DECIDED LESSONS which is essential for us to REALISE certain values. The faster we REALISE, find deeper meaning and attain eternal bliss the faster we move on from one lifetime to another. These PRE-DECIDED LESSONS is what we refer to as DESTINY. This entire process which is our MORTAL LIFE is required for us to EVOLVE into beings of HIGHER ENERGIES. The purpose of our existence can only be found out when we become SELF-AWARE of ourselves. Each and every one of us is UNIQUE. We need to first discover what we are GIFTED WITH and explore our capabilities.
This in turn facilitates us to FOCUS on our strengths and utilise them to the maximum. When we get to this phase of life is when we start our journey by gaining experiences and finally end it by attaining the state of eternal bliss.
My Final Word
Why and how we came into existence doesn’t matter now, since we are already here. How we are utilising all our energy, potential and capability is what matters! We all have a GIFT to positively energise our world, I’m already utilising it, are you?
With Regards,
Adarsh Benakappa Basavaraj
The Coach
I am in class VI. My friends hate me or don’t talk to me when I get attention from teachers for getting good marks. I feel they use me IScore
This is happening only because of jealousy. It is common not only in your age but in adults too. The way we handle it, based on our maturity, is what makes the difference. When your teachers are giving you special attention for getting good marks, it makes your friends feel left out. It makes them feel jealous because you’re getting SPECIAL treatment. That leads to jealousy which also makes them feel incapable since they are not able to perform to your level. When all this happens, their frustration builds which is why they are behaving like this.
Don’t get effected by their behaviour. DON’T let it affect you or your studies. Forgive them and understand that they are too young to analyse all this.
Try to help them out with their studies as it’ll have two benefits. One, their level of jealously will reduce since you’re helping them out and two, you’ll become even more perfect in what you have studied in the process of teaching them through repetition.
Finally, remember that if they’re using you only when they want and are being selfish, you don’t need friends like them. Take up a hobby that you’re interested in and get involved with that. You might make better friends in your hobby classes.
I am a postgraduate in Social Work and Law. I am a practising advocate in Dindugul district court in TN. I am interested in public speaking and politics. But I have a stammering problem. Please provide stammering cure techniques SpeakClean
It is claimed that stammering cannot be cured but can be managed by speaking more fluently. But trust me, the level of fluency will make you as normal as anyone else. The reason for this might be vary as it depends on your physiological, psychological or sociological factors. But this needs to be assessed by a therapist and a careful treatment plan has to be prepared. You can opt for Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Speech Therapy or Hypnotherapy. Personally, I have seen results with hypnotherapy.
Also, it has been proved that stammering may not be caused, but CAN BE TRIGGERED by anxiety.
Hence, my first advice to you would be to, join yoga classes and focus on breathing techniques. Individuals with this problem do not breathe properly so yoga helps with this as well as stress reduction.
Practice talking slower than what you’re habituated to, but not too slow. Remember that the world is not ENDING tomorrow, it’s okay if you’re taking some time to communicate. And the person you’re communicating to will also cooperate if he values you. I say this as the stammering worsens when one tries to speak fast. Once you start practicing these, you can consider therapy to increase fluency.
I am an engineer working in Bengaluru since last year. I have depression as my gf and family are in Bengal. I want to quit and go back but I can’t as IT jobs are tough in Bengal NoWayHome
By terming this as depression without medical certification you’re creating problems for yourself by self-programming DEPRESSION into your mind. The more you think of it, the more it gets programmed. STOP THINKING NEGATIVELY. Rather take a piece of paper and plan out your options.
Don’t postpone, immediately execute. See if you can find an accommodation and get your family to live with you. Or if you can get your girlfriend a job here. Once you figure out a plan, execute it.
But the real culprit here is loneliness. You need to gel well with others in your office. Join a course that you’ve always been interested in, or take up a hobby. Mixing work and personal lives will always lead to disaster, find a balance. If finding a job back home is tough, try harder. It’s not impossible right?
One of my juniors is dependent on pills for 2 years, her roomate told me. Doctor prescribed it long back but she feels if she stops she will lose her mind. She hasn’t shared this with me so I can’t talk to her directly. I have been through the same situation and taken pills. I know without a doctor’s prescription one must not have it FriendIndeed
This is one of the reasons I chose Hypnotherapy or Psychiatry. Dependency on medicines is a curse sometimes, when it come to a psychological issue.
You need to plan and execute my advice as a team. Ask her roommate to find out the name of the tablet and get one. Next, take help of a pharmacist to find out the reason the tablet is prescribed. Once you have this information, casually talk to her roommate. After some time, slowly come to the topic of problems and tell her roommate that you were using the tablet which that girl is using and have found a better tablet. But it’s only available with your cousin or whoever.
Tell her that it’s needs to be kept a secret. I’m sure the friend will approach you soon saying that she has the same problem and wants your tablet. Get her something like a multivitamin and lie to her that it’s the drug you were talking about. Tell her that in the initial days she might have difficulty as her body needs to adjust to the tablet. I’m sure that she’ll sleep peacefully without knowing what you’ve given her as there is nothing more stronger than WILL POWER. Let this happen for a few months and then tell her that she was taking a tablet that’s not a drug. It would have given her enough time to trust you also. Once the confidence sets in she will be fine.
All decisions I take are blunders. I am scared to take more. Feels like I am just surviving! HelpMe
First thing I want you to remember is that, nobody can either be RIGHT or wrong all the time.
Read my earlier column about decision making on September 19, 2016. We all commit mistakes, learn from them. The challenge in your case is not the decisions but the loss of self-confidence. So with a claim mind analyse the pattern of your challenges. Whether it is with respect to studies, friends, family or anything else.
Further break it down and analyse whether the decisions you took were impulsive or not. I’m almost completely sure that you’ve taken decisions impulsive. The reason I am asking you to analyse is for you to be aware of the difference between thought about decisions and impulsive decisions. One of the reasons for your decisions to turn out to be blunders is because they are impulsive or you’re relying on others. These constant blows have made you lose your confidence. So to bounce back, ensure that you take carefully planned decisions. Rely on trustworthy people for guidance. Stop brooding and feeling low, start executing on what can be done to repair your blunders.