Impressed with a review published in 3quarksdaily I bought “Why Women Have Sex” by Cindy Meston, a clinical psychologist and David Buss, an evolutionary psychologist on Amazon. Why Amazon? Because all these ‘amazing’ bookstores in Bangalore do not have the book and at the mention of the title the salespeople gave me an uniform stare as if I proposed human sacrifice. I know I am digressing.
Meston and Buss have interviewed 1,006 women from all over the world about their sexual motivation, and have identified 237 different reasons why women have sex. Pore through the book and you would get the authors rattling off a list.
“Promotion, money, drugs, bartering, for revenge, to get back at a partner who has cheated on them. To make themselves feel good. To make their partners feel bad. Women can use sex at every stage of the relationship, from luring a man into the relationship, to try and keep a man so he is fulfilled and doesn’t stray.
Duty. Using sex to get rid of him or to make him jealous.” Who would have thought that the list would be so diverse and here are the Indian men who are still cracking jokes like this one, which is as stale as an used condom.
“Why do women fake orgasms,” asks a man to his friend.
The friend asks why and the man says, “Because they think we care.” What’s more, I saw this very joke enacted yesterday at a play called “All About Women”.
The men were laughing their heads off and women avoided the joke like they would avoid looking at a car wreck. No wonder women have the brobdingnagian number of reasons to fornicate.
When it comes to sex I think men have very limited needs.
They get into the mood for sex really easily. Drinking a lot of beer or going to a movie does the requisite trick, especially if the movie is rated R or higher.
Popular fiction usually contains scenes that put one in a sexual frame of mind. Men don’t even think if there is a right or wrong way to have sexual intercourse. This way, that way doesn’t matter to them as long as they are having it and more they have of it, even better. They are ready to have sex on any day of the week as long as the name ends with D-A-Y. I usually prefer the night because as it is I wouldn’t be wearing much.
How I wish the men could eschew the gallows humour pertaining to a woman’s sexual behaviour.
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