Strange meeting
Kanna Phaneendra and Suharika met, as most young couples do, through a common friend Anand. Phaneendra was smitten by Suharika eventually. They began dating and got married in 2010. the business man recalls with a smile, “Anand and Suharika came to the gym in my house and that was our first meeting. We then started meeting regularly along with friends and one day all of us decided to go for a movie. But to my surprise, only two of us ended up at the theatre. By the end of the three-hour movie, I started liking her.” “It was strange how we met randomly and eventually ended up being one,” says Suharika.
Hooked by their passion
Her love for cars and polo brought her closer to Phaneendra. It is these activities that forged strong bonds of deep caring and attachment between them. The spark of passion still burns, as Phaneendra says, “Her passion for my polo team is growing day-by-day and she loves my horses and dogs more than me.”
When Suharika likes his simplicity and forgiveness, Phaneendra admires her innocence. On a lighter note he says, “I like when she shops. That gives me the kick to earn more for her.”
Meant to be
Five years of togetherness and thoroughly enjoying each other’s company, ask them when exactly they fell in love and Phanee and Suharika go blank. “It just happened. After we met for the first time and as the time progressed we went through many ups and downs. But at the end of it all we knew we were meant for each other,” explains Suharika.
Talk rather than fight
It’s perfectly healthy and normal for couples to fight even if they are deeply in love. Some level of conflict is inevitable. “Avoiding conflict does more harm. It’s natural. But we make it a point to sit and solve it instead of prolonging the issue. We don’t give space for fights. Even if some thing comes up we always try to sit down and talk. It’s always better to talk than to fight,” they say.
Staying strong through the mightiest of storms
Sometimes, things go wrong. It’s in those difficult times that your relationship is put to test. “Every couple goes through the highs and lows but at the end of it all we have happiness. We just enjoy being ourselves and are very into each other,” says Suharika and Phaneendra adds, “It’s just passion for each other that keeps us intact. There are disturbances, but our idea in life is to be together and happy so the end result is clear. We always try to do our best for each other.”
The couple who will be celebrating their fifth anniversary this May 26 say, we still love each other intensely. “It seems like we are married yesterday.”
For Suharika, Phaneendra’s love has been consistent. “He’s thoughtful and knows exactly how I’m feeling. He pampers me so much. He does not let anything negative come close me at all. I feel as if I have a safety cocoon around me. I think all it takes is respect and love for your partner,” says Suharika and Phaneendra adds, “Marriage is a bonding between two families and generations to come.”
Trust is vital
Building trust and intimacy in marriage may require planning time and effort. “The hardest thing is to make your spouse believe in you. Once that belief develops then it’s a smooth journey thereafter. Until then it’s a roller coaster ride,” says Suharika.