'For me, it was less of sorrow and more of pride. i wanted to be like him'

Kargil War hero’s daughter Lalitha Kanwar on her becoming an army officer

Published: 04th September 2016 11:28 AM  |   Last Updated: 04th September 2016 11:47 AM   |  A+A-

CHENNAI: During the September 10 Passing-out Parade of the Officers Training Academy (OTA), Kargil war hero’s daughter Lalitha Kanwar’s eyes would be eagerly searching for her grandmother. She will be fulfilling her mother’s dream of “returning the grandmother’s son back to her”.

For Me.jpgDressed in olive green, Lalitha, the daughter of Naik Rajvir Dan of the 15 Grenadiers, who lost his life on June 21, 2000, during Operation Rakshak in Kargil, said her father’s death came as a massive blow to the family belonging to the male-dominated traditional Charan community in Rajasthan’s Nagaur, where women are confined to the kitchen.

Lalitha was seven when the coffin of her father, draped in the Tricolour, was brought to her village. “My sister told me he won’t be coming back. But I hardly knew what she meant. I was awestruck as visitors poured in. For me, it was less of sorrow and more of pride. I wanted to be like him,” she said. Then things did not go well after the demise of her father. “Once the bread-winner is no more, the family is lost as they don’t know what to do. I have a brother and two sisters. My mother raised me like a boy and there was opposition from the community which felt that the place for a woman was the kitchen. My mother fought against the stereotypes but could not do it for long and we left our village for Jaipur,” recalls Lalitha.

“My mother nurtured me as she saw my father’s character in me. My brother was shy. Her goal was to nurture me and return me to my grandmother as her son. Now I have realised that dream,” says Lalitha.

However, she won’t have a chance to be at the combat zone. “I would love to be there but then we have a policy to which we must adhere,” she says.

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