BENGALURU:
Red Flag Trait #1: POSSIBLE CRUELTY
This one is in the eyes. Physical indicator: The eyelids look half closed, so the iris is cut in half and the irises are very small.
Caution: Some people have what are called “lazy eyes.” The eyelids won’t open fully. They will tilt their heads back to see. This is a neurological condition and should not be confused with the “Possible Cruelty” trait. “Possible Cruelty” people hold their heads at a normal level.
The Possible Cruelty trait indicates the person is not warm and caring by nature. They may be capable of acts of deliberate cruelty, especially if the overall attitude is cold or aggressive.
Quite a number of known terrorists, drug lords, and the like have this trait. It can also simply be a sign of emotional disconnect of people who are not deeply connected to others on any level.
I have seen this trait three times in my eleven-plus years of reading people professionally. One man was obviously abusive to his wife. She was so afraid of him she was tiptoeing on eggshells in trying to talk to him, fearful of upsetting him. His cold, contemptuous attitude towards her was frightening.
Depending on what else is on the face, it can indicate emotional cruelty or physical cruelty . . . or both. High forehead and finer skin is more likely to indulge in psychological/emotional cruelty.
Coarser skin and hair and a smaller forehead is more likely to be physically abusive. The Possible Cruelty eyes combined with a very short forehead tends to be dominating and self-glorifying.
Red Flag Trait #2: PSYCHOLOGICAL DISCONNECT
The eyes look wild, wide open. You can see whites all the way around the iris (colored part of the eye). The emotional undertone is frantic or aggressive.
Caution: Some people naturally have huge eyes with small irises. They will show “four whites” all the time. This is not Psychological Disconnect. Look to the behavior or the undertone - Psychological Disconnect is tied to desperation and typically erratic behavior.
This trait usually shows when a person has reached a point of desperation. They are highly agitated, anxious, and unstable. It can also be present in aggressive, rageful behavior.
Red Flag Trait #4 : POWDER KEG
This trait is in the eyebrows. The eyebrows are extremely thick with wild-looking, curly hairs.
This is a major red flag trait. The wildly curving eyebrow hairs indicate a tendency to blow up for no apparent reason. There is an ocean of anger held in these eyebrows. Expect raging, tyrannical behaviour with no quarter given. They won’t back down and can be more stubborn than most people.
This trait at its worst doesn’t need a reason to explode and become violent. Sometimes they just enjoy the sense of power their rage gives them over people around them. It’s nearly impossible to develop a trust of someone with these eyebrows because you never know when they will go off on you. The positive side of this trait is courage and generosity to those they love, along with a great need for excitement and physical activity. But the inherent anger is the biggest challenge and a major issue in dealing with this trait.
Red Flag Trait #3: CONTEMPTUOUS
This trait shows in the mouth. The mouth looks like a permanent sneer. It can be on just one side, or on both sides.
When you see this particular trait, you will usually find the person has an underlying contempt for most people. A real sense of empathy and tolerance is usually absent. Keyed in to what’s ridiculous or foolish in people, they generally lack respect for others. A lack of respect translates to not granting dignity to others. They may purposely humiliate another person to try to show their own “superiority.”
A difficult trait to tolerate - When you see this one combined with the Possible Cruelty trait, you will want to avoid close dealings with the person. It doubles the effect of the Possible Cruelty. It’s not a good idea to get into a battle with them or try to “bring them down a peg or two.” You only make a lifelong enemy who is not likely to be an honourable one.
Red Flag Trait #5: THE FIGHTER
This trait is in the chin. The chin is large, square, and wide. Wider the square, the stronger the trait. A very broad, square chin is the mark of a Fighter. You usually see this one on men, seldom on women. These people enjoy a good battle and will often start one because they like to fight. And they fight to the last breath. The legendary Darryl Royal, coach of the Texas Longhorns had this chin. Another term you can apply to them is contentious. They may buck you just to get you going, or to unsettle things, usually for their own purposes. They often feel more in control if they can get you out of control. Some square chins are more serious about their battles. Just be aware of the tendency to disagree and engage in all manner of sporting (or not) warfare.
Red Flag Trait # 6 : OPPOSITIONAL
This trait shows in the jaw line and chin. The jaw line is wedge shaped and/or the chin is decidedly pointed.
This trait is a defiant “Don’t tell me what to do!” Ask these people and they are pretty easy to get along with. But the moment you tell or suggest, the hackles rise and the heels dig in. They will not budge. When you present them with a new idea or suggestion, expect an automatic “no.” It’s standard operating procedure. If you don’t push, but respect their right to choose for themselves, they may change their minds. Ask for their input instead of suggesting or telling. Enlist their help.
The upside of it is that they are very creative, (this does not mean just the arts -- it can be new ideas, mental resourcefulness). Ideas, theories, education are all very important to them. Usually curious, they may educate themselves over a lifetime rather than submit to formal schooling. Or they may go for the PhD and still keep learning.
Red Flag Trait # 7: PERFECTIONIST
This is another trait that is in the eyes. The eyes' angle is downward from the nose, measuring from the eye corner to eye corner. They are also close together, less than one eye’s width apart. The effect is double when the eyes are also close together (less than an eye’s width between the eyes which is detail and now oriented).
It can be a difficult trait to deal with when you are at the receiving end. They are incredibly nitpicky. And they demand correction immediately - they feel their present world hinges on it. Dealing with the person: if you want perfection and can stand the fire, ask for their input.
Note: there are degrees of perfectionism. Other traits can indicate shades of it, but these two physical indicators are generally hyper-perfectionist.