HYDERABAD: To be a parent is to hold the heart and soul, the spirit and fate of another human being in your hands. That heart will flourish and fly, or break and fall, depending on the depth of wisdom, the degree of aliveness, and the amount of open-hearted love we as parents bring to the connection.
Regardless of the number of times its been said, it need to be reiterated again that being a parent is at once the hardest and the most joyful job in the world.
The deep devotion we need to bring to our children’s ‘authentic selves’ of necessity involves supporting, validating, warmly accepting and understanding all of their emotions and instincts, and having total faith in their basic human nature.
This includes our children’s primal emotional expressions such as anger, willfulness and self-assertion, sadness and crying, the need for touch, affection, love, sexuality, joy and excitement.
Since it is exam time, I request all parents to advise children to please act with extra patience.
Please advise your child to not discuss the paper immediately after exam with friends / tuition teachers or even with the parents. The paper has been written and it is over. She/he cannot do anything with what is over. If discussed the child may get discouraged or emotionally drained out and that in turn may spoil her concentration for the next exams.
The performance of the child for the exam that over cannot be changed but we can surely change outcome of for one that are yet to come.
Just keep telling them, that their best is going to come even if the exam gone by was average, above average or even good. There is always scope for improvement.
(The author runs a spiritual healing centre Energy Matrix in the city.)