Most of us do not have a clear idea about how to change.
Most of us do not have a clear idea about how to change.

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We suppress or hide emotions such as anger, jealousy and hatred. However, by suppressing an emotion, we can neither keep it at bay nor prevent it from arising again.
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Children, there is no one who does not long for change. Everyone wants to overcome his or her physical and mental weaknesses and to be free from negative emotions and habits. But most of us do not have a clear idea about how to change.

It is difficult to change one’s nature. Hence, we often change only our behaviour, not our character. Instead of eliminating the ego, many of us artfully conceal it and wear the mask of humility. We suppress or hide emotions such as anger, jealousy and hatred. However, by suppressing an emotion, we can neither keep it at bay nor prevent it from arising again.

Once, some miscreants scattered sharp thorns in the front yards of two next-door neighbours. When he saw the thorns in the morning, one of the neighbours covered the thorns with a layer of earth and thus dealt with the problem. The second neighbour patiently picked up each one of the thorns, threw them into a bonfire and reduced them to ash.

Both of them solved the problem. But what will happen when it rains? The first man’s front yard will be full of thorns. Not only that, he will have to work twice as hard as the second man did to remove all the thorns.

Such is the case with negative emotions, too. Even if we succeed in suppressing them temporarily, it does not mean that we have eradicated them permanently. Instead of suppressing or concealing negative tendencies, we must confront them with the weapons of alertness and discernment.

First of all, we must firmly resolve never again to become enslaved by such emotions and thoughts. Every time such thoughts arise, we must notice them and withdraw the mind from them. Then, we must find out why such thoughts arise and strive to eliminate the causes.

Mata Amritanandamayi
Mata Amritanandamayi

The main reason we act upon our vasanas (latent tendencies) is our lack of alertness. If the watchman guarding the house at night remains awake and alert, and carries his lantern while patrolling the grounds, no thief will be able to break into the house.

Day by day, science and technology are rapidly growing in an uncontrollable manner. No one knows where this growth is leading. When we look around, we see developers, producers, distributors and consumers all seem to be caught in a frenzy to acquire the latest, greatest and largest things. The current state of humanity is like that of a child let loose in a candy store.

Today, while lying in our bed we can order anything to eat, drink, watch or listen to, and it will be delivered right to our home. We don’t need to go to a store anymore to buy new or used things. There are websites for anything and everything. The Internet is revolutionising the world, which is good. Now, we can buy anything with a single click of our finger—except one thing: love.

A person who firmly resolves never to give in to any weakness and who observes each and every thought arising in the mind will notice every negative thought that arises in his alert mind and thus control it.

No bad habit can be eliminated at once. However, constant effort and a strong determination will lead us to victory. We can thus transform our lives completely.

The writer is a world-renowned spiritual leader and humanitarian.

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