Marriages are made in heaven. With much fanfare, one’s marriage is conducted and with less fanfare, divorce is made. Divorce is rampant in Kerala. Many couples with the sweet smell of their wedding still lingering on opt out of their marriage bond for reasons only known to them. Just think of the enormous money and precious time spent for the wedding and the blessings of thousands of people from far and near.
A close friend of mine, a professor by profession, is now licking his wounds after a lengthy battle in a family court over the issue of divorce. Coincidently, I too got married in the same year as my friend, in 1996. Their honeymoon lasted just a couple of years and by then, they had two children. We tried to counsel them to remain together but they were obdurate. Another couple working in government departments separated after giving birth to a boy. Their reasons were frivolous. The wife felt her husband was scruffy and work was his raison d’être.
On the other hand, the husband accused her of being a floozy. It seems they were like parallel lines which will never meet. They were guided by arrogance than understanding. More of their ilk are reported to have parted for similar and silly reasons. Recently, an “aggressive” couple in our neighbourhood went on sulking after a brazen brawl. The husband, a gigolo of a rich woman, lost his love for his svelte wife.
Their bone of contention is just this— their journey together as husband and wife has become a mirage. Though both of them desire a separation, they have not parted yet The divorce bug seems to have bitten Mollywood too as the divorce rate has gone up.
The couples—Mukesh–Saritha, Manoj K Jayan–Urvashi, Dileep–Manju Warrier— broke the nuptial knots in the recent past. The reasons behind divorce could be more insignificant than we think. One couple I know remained separated for more than five years after the husband was accused of being a paedophile. For another couple, the Achilles heel is that they are not spending enough time together at home to booze.
A perfect family will have perfect parents. “Perfect parenting” means children should be taken care of and brought up well. Sacredness comes to the family where perfect parenting is maintained. A family where parents seldom give their children due care will not be an ideal one. The root of all problems begins at home. A little slackness on the part of parents could snowball into a monstrous problem.