The many hues of motherhood

A multi-layered collection of essays, stories and poems, Of Mothers and Others, analyses an eternal concept.

Published: 31st March 2013 12:00 AM  |   Last Updated: 29th March 2013 11:21 AM   |  A+A-


On December 7, 1992, one day after the Babri Masjid was demolished, New-Delhi based journalist Humra Quraishi told her children Sarah and Mustafa that they would have to stay at home, for their safety. After a while, the bell rang. When Humra opened the door, it was her children’s school friend, Radhika Subberwal who had come to spend the day. “Her mother had made it a point to drop her at our place on this crucial and tense day,” writes Humra. “Although she was well aware that it was a Muslim home and so could have been attacked in the aftermath of the demolition and the rioting.”

And this act by a Hindu mother left a big impact on Humra. “It is because of people like the Subberwals that the fabric of our country is still intact...” she writes in her moving essay, The State Can’t Snatch Away Our Children. Part of the collection Of Mothers and Others, her essay also talks about the plight of Kashmiri mothers whose sons have been missing for years. In 1990, Parveena Ahangar’s son, Javed, was snatched by the security forces. Many mothers went through similar appearances. In response, Parveena set up The Association of Parents of Disappeared Persons, one of the longest, ongoing non-violent movements in the state. Incidentally, Parveena is still searching for her son.

This collection, ably edited by novelist Jaishree Misra, looks at the cosy images of motherhood that we  all nurture. Through the essays, stories and poems, we read about the good, happy and traumatic experiences of motherhood. 

In Smriti Lamech’s work, Determination, she talks about her intense desire to give birth to a girl, because her mother and grandmother were such strong women. And when it turned out to be a son, Smriti writes, “I wish I could say I put him to my breast and fell in love but I didn’t.” Days went past with this indifference on the part of Smriti. And then one day, when she awoke, she reached out for her son instinctively. “I held him with the early rays of the sun streaming in, and the emotion hit me with the force of a ten-tonne truck,” she says. “My son. My precious, precious baby.”

Unfortunately, award-winning author Manju Kapur lost her precious daughter, Amba, when she was only 21 years old. “I remember a frantic burning itch unfurling beneath my skin,” says Manju. “For weeks, no salve, no ointment, no ice, no heat made any difference.” And she writes of how she tried to cope with the tragedy, by going for a 10-day retreat to do Vipassana meditation, at Dehradun, and searching for peace and inner healing at the Aurobindo Ashram in Puducherry.

Noted publisher Urvashi Butalia’s essay, Childless Naturally, is about how she deliberately stayed single and childless in a society where being barren is worse than being a widow. Writer Jahnavi Barua, on the other hand, writes about her experience of being pregnant for the first time in On The Other Side. “Motherhood changes all of us,” says Jahnavi. “Timid, tentative girls are transformed into assertive fierce women when they assume this new role.”

There are poems by Meena Alexander and Tishani Doshi; fiction by Mridula Koshy, Kishwar Desai, Shinie Antony, and Sarita Mandanna—whose striking tale, The Gardener’s Daughter, reveals how a woman of a prominent family through intermediaries, kills off a servant’s daughter made pregnant by her son, so that he could have a political career.

An unusual essay is of mothers in Bollywood films by Jai Arjun Singh as well as one about surrogate motherhood by Sarojini N and Vrindah Marwah. And who can forget Shalini Sinha’s touching Amma and Her Beta, a story about living with a son who has Down’s Syndrome.

Of Mothers and Others is an engaging and perceptive collection. For men, it gives an insight about the women’s psyche and, for women, many of the experiences will ring true.

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