Depression and anxiety are constantly on the rise, and with that comes a parallel increase in addictions, binge eating, and other such behaviours. These are all attempts to cope with the pain and emotions one goes through. But what if there was a better way? What if we could learn methods to cope with our emotions in a healthy way, instead of pushing them under the carpet? This is where emotional learning comes in—the practice of developing emotional intelligence through lifestyle habits.
EQ vs IQ
While your ability to reason and solve problems (IQ) is important, equally crucial in today’s world is emotional intelligence. EQ is the ability to recognise, understand and manage our emotions, as well as of others. According to a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, individuals with high EQ were found to have better mental health and coping skills, as well as more satisfying relationships and higher job performance.
Healthy Coping Mechanisms
When faced with stress or difficult emotions, it’s important to have effective ways to manage them. A study published in the Journal of Psychosomatic Research found that individuals who engaged in mindfulness activities had reduced symptoms of mental health issues. Apart from these, exercising, engaging in creative pursuits, social support, volunteering and self-care are also healthy outlets of emotions.
Having a Spiritual Practice
Another way to develop emotional intelligence is through spirituality. This doesn’t necessarily mean organised religion, but rather a sense of connection to something larger than self. A study published in the Journal of Happiness Studies found that those who had a sense of spirituality experienced positive emotions. Developing a spiritual practice, whether through meditation or spending time in nature, can help provide a purpose and meaning in life.
The Power of Surrender
Finally, a key aspect of emotional learning is to understand that not everything is in our control. The power of surrender involves accepting what we cannot change and focusing on what we can control. This can be a difficult concept to grasp, but surrendering to what we cannot change can actually be a liberating experience, and is shown to lower levels of stress and worry.
Community and Real Human Connection
Social media has become a significant part of our lives, but it cannot replace the sense of community and connection that comes from face-to-face interactions. Research has shown that loneliness and social isolation are associated with poor mental health outcomes, including depression and anxiety. In contrast, a sense of belonging can promote well-being and resilience. Build relationships by joining clubs, volunteering for a cause, attending local events, participating in group activities, connecting with neighbours or coworkers, etc. In conclusion, emotional learning is an important practice for developing emotional intelligence. Developing healthy coping mechanisms and positive outlets for emotions are its key components. Through these shifts, one can live a more fulfilling and meaningful life.
Coutinho practises in the field of Holistic Nutrition - Integrative and Lifestyle Medicine, Founder of Luke Coutinho Holistic Healing Systems