Many feel that they can achieve more, they feel that something is missing in their lives. There are many ways to achieve a desired outcome. In this post I want to describe two ways I find efficient.
The first is to reverse the ‘Do, Have, Be’ order. Most of us try to Do something (work, beauty treatment) in order to Have something (money, looks) so we can Be something (happy, safe).
By reversing the order and operating
out of a state of happiness, joy, peace of mind, confidence or whatever resource you feel beneficial, you will Do (work etc) with more harmony and thus will have or achieve with ease and comfort. As a result the achievement will be much faster and more enjoyable.
Just imagine how your work will be different if you’ll smile and act generally happy. It might even open doors to you that otherwise would stay shut.
The second way has four steps:
1. The first step is to identify the desired state. This means more than just recognising what you want. It means considering how the change will affect you. For instance, what will you do in your work, relationships, leisure time etc. At this point it’s also wise to do an internal ecology check.
Ask yourself the following questions:
a) What will I gain if I make this change?
b) What extra will I have to do?
c) Is it worth it?
d) What is the price of making this change and am I willing to pay it?
e) What are the good aspects of the present state?
f) How can I keep those good aspects while making the change I want?
g) What are the wider consequences of my action?
Once you determine your goal, your brain will automatically start organising your unconscious to achieve it.
2. The second step is to identify the present state. This seems like an unnecessary step right? After all we all know where we stand. However, the point of this step is to identify the problem, what’s holding us back? Or why haven’t we achieved what we wanted yet? Knowing what’s hindering our achievement helps us understand what resources are needed.
In order to achieve anything, one must believe that it is achievable at general, and that he can achieve it with the proper resources. He’s got to want to change, know how to change, and give himself the chance to change. There is a formula for success: The present state + resources = desired state.
3. The third step is to identify the appropriate resources needed to get from the present state to the desired state. The resources needed often include accessing the right states in your body. We act differently when we are happy or excited than when are afraid or sad. They may also include lack of information or skills. Moreover, some people find that they need new beliefs to assist them with the change.
4. The fourth step is eliminating any interferences through using those resources. This step is really a process; it takes time and effort to successfully add resources and get rid of hindering beliefs. There are many ways to add resources. One technique I find useful is called the circle of excellence. It was developed by Dr John Grinder, co-creator of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic
Programming).
The circle of excellence:
a) Imagine a circle on the floor large enough to step into. Give it a colour.
b) Step into the circle and think of a time when you felt great, you had the resources you require. Vividly see through your eyes what you saw when you felt this way. Hear what you heard and feel what you felt. If you don’t remember such events, simply pretend you’re feeling this way. What’s important in this exercise is the emotion.
c) Make the emotion stronger. Make the picture you’re seeing bigger with more colours and double the size of the image. Make the sounds louder and pleasant. You can add a giggle or the sounds of people cheering for you.
d) Repeat steps b and c with more resources (courage, joy) until you add everything you require to act differently in what was previously an uncomfortable situation.
e) Imagine that the colour you picked for the circle is starting to raise from the floor all the way up, it transforms every cell making you full of resources, it opens your chakras in the process. Imagine you’re glowing with this colour, and it gets bigger and bigger. It fills the room with the colour and then your city, country and the world.
f) Step out of the circle and think of a situation that was previously difficult. Now imagine how you’ll act differently with your new resources. When you feel good about the situation, step into the circle again and repeat the second and the third step regarding your situation. Step out of the circle.
g) Now you can choose to transform the circle into a bracelet to wear or into a marble to put in your pocket. Whichever you choose, pay attention to its weight, to its feeling, maybe it emits a nice warm feeling. Now the circle is always with you and you can feel this emotions whenever you want.
The author is a blogger whose spirituality and self help has been named one of the 100 Best Blogs for the Mind, Body and Soul by National Massage Certification.org