HYDERABAD: ‘Time heals all wounds.’ You’ve probably heard this popular saying. But this isn’t always true, especially when it comes to childhood trauma.
Radhika Acharya, consultant clinical psychologist, Deccan and Medicover hospitals, points out, “Childhood trauma is very detrimental to the whole life of a person. It manifests not only in childhood but also in adulthood.” Her words highlight a reality that those who’ve gone through traumatic experiences know all too well—early scars can impact everything, from mental health to daily decision-making.
Anxiety, depression, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) are common. Many adults find themselves constantly reliving painful memories from their past, unable to escape the emotional weight they carry. This burden often leads to feelings of low self-worth and insecurity, which can make navigating adult life even more challenging.
Dr Gautami Nagabhirava, senior consultant neuropsychiatrist, Kamineni Hospitals, says, “Trauma affects emotional regulation by keeping the nervous system in a state of hyper-alertness.” This heightened sensitivity can make managing emotions a daily battle. Survivors may feel on edge, easily overwhelmed by even minor stressors, or might go to the other extreme—emotionally shutting down as a way to cope.
Some survivors may develop unhealthy coping mechanisms, such as substance abuse, or engage in risky behaviours. Radhika mentions, “They may develop substance-related habits or risky behaviours.” These are often unconscious attempts to numb the pain or escape difficult feelings. Such behaviours can sometimes lead to isolation or further struggles, particularly in relationships.
Dr Gautami notes how unresolved trauma can make it hard for individuals to form healthy, stable relationships. Some people develop an anxious attachment style, constantly seeking reassurance and fearing rejection. Others might take the opposite approach, avoiding emotional closeness altogether. These attachment patterns can create a push-and-pull dynamic in relationships, often leading to instability and loneliness.
One of the more surprising revelations about childhood trauma is the way it physically impacts the brain. Research has shown that trauma can affect brain development, particularly in areas responsible for emotions, decision-making, and impulse control.
Despite the deep and often long-lasting impact of trauma, healing is possible. Early intervention and therapy are key in helping individuals process their experiences in healthy ways. Therapies like Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) are especially effective in treating trauma. Radhika explains, “Mindfulness-based therapies are very effective in the present situation.” These therapies help individuals focus on the present moment, which can reduce the emotional intensity of traumatic memories and aid in recovery.
Another therapeutic approach gaining attention is Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR). Dr Gautami explains, “EMDR uses bilateral stimulation to reduce the intensity of distressing memories.” In practice, this means that by guiding a person to process traumatic memories in a safe, controlled way, EMDR can help lessen their emotional impact over time. Combined with CBT, which helps people reframe negative thoughts and behaviours, these treatments offer a way forward for those dealing with the aftermath of childhood trauma.
But healing isn’t just about the therapies themselves—it’s about the mindset with which individuals approach their recovery. Radhika underscores, “Focusing on a solution point of view rather than being in a victim mode is the biggest obstacle in developing resilience.”
The road to healing from childhood trauma is undoubtedly long and challenging. But with the right support, therapy, and most importantly, self-awareness, those who’ve suffered in their early years can find peace. It’s not about forgetting the past but about learning to live with it in a way that no longer holds them back. As difficult as it may be, healing is possible, and for many, it’s the key to reclaiming their future.